Does Entrepreneurship Require Sacrificing Motherhood? 14 Things to Consider

Wednesday, May 4th, 2016

Alain de Botton once said that “There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.”

What does this mean to a mother?

She has already unbalanced her life once by creating new life so intricately connected to her own.

Must she now sacrifice just as much to give birth to an idea, a company?

Perhaps it’s no surprise that fewer than 10 percent of start-up founders are women.

What tiny percentage of those entrepreneurs are mothers as well?

Is a woman even capable of completely giving herself over twice, much less at the same time?

It’s hard to say.

Entrepreneurship Vs Motherhood

Entrepreneurship Vs Motherhood

A Working Mom and an Entrepreneur Mom

It’s worth noting that a part-time job hosting buying parties on the occasional weekend or answering phone calls for a few hours every evening is very much working and can be very rewarding for a mother and her family. It is not, however, the same level of employment as a mother who is building her own business or a company while also raising a family in the same twenty-four hours of the day.

The Ability to Juggle

The phrase multi-tasking is misused in many cases. Nobody can effectively do two things at once – they just do two things one at a time in short bursts. Recognizing this, the nature of motherhood is to be constantly distracted and forced to hop from one priority to another. Naps, food, tears, diapers, phone call, email, shipping problems. It’s all the same when it comes down to shifting priorities are juggling commitments. The only question is how many more commitments can you juggle effectively?

No Sleep, No Problem

No Sleep, No Problem

No Sleep, No Problem

Building a business is a tireless affair. The business needs almost constant tending, and the entrepreneur doesn’t do much sleeping as she gets things off the ground. For a mother who is already up all night with her young children this may be a great way to use that time in small bursts to answer emails and check on things, or it may make building a business simply too cumbersome until the mother is able to get more sleep – at least enough to think rationally again.

Inventing Solutions

Motherhood seems to be an endless storm of problem-solving. First its diaper blow outs, then later its last-minute school projects. Fortunately the mind is flexibly and a diet of constant problem-solving keeps the brain wired for business solutions on a daily basis as well. Or it may be burned out of decision making before you even sit down at the desk for work after getting the children off to school. Somedays it’s a bit touch and go.

Making Connections

It takes a village to raise a child, and it takes a network to raise a business. Mothers who excel at making connections necessary to research preschools and good doctors are just as good at making connections to find good marketing firms and referral networks.

Working under Pressure

When is a working mother not under pressure? It’s not a career choice – it’s a lifestyle! Is it one you can embrace, however?

Making Time for Everything

Inspiring Children to Build a Business

Inspiring Children to Build a Business

Those juggling skills come in very handy for entrepreneurial mothers who simply must make time for everything. Often this simply means prioritizing. There are times when the children and family come first and others when your family is able to watch you work your magic in the professional world, inspiring your children to perhaps build a business (and family) of their own someday.

Moving Beyond Ego

One of the pitfalls of entrepreneurship is the human ego. When we must do it all and have all of the credit, it’s hard to make others rally to our cause. Fortunately, most mothers have already checked their ego at the door. It’s hard to look and feel like an egomaniac with spit up on your shoulder and a preschooler ready to tell all of your secrets to her favorite teacher.

Negotiation Skills

Negotiation Skills

Negotiation Skills

Need to negotiate a cease-fire? Find a mother with multiple children. Granted, most of the time your business won’t be dealing with warfare, but finding a compromise everyone can live with requires a bit of finesse, tact and occasionally bullying. Like effective mothering.

Patience and Perseverance

Creating a family and creating a business both require ridiculous amounts of patience and perseverance. Sometimes you must simply slog on through the hard times without any clue as to when you will finally emerge from the darkness into the light. For many this is almost too challenging to do as a mother, having to do it again, sometimes on a daily or weekly basis, in business may prove too much.

Motivation

Running a business requires a great deal of self-motivation. It is always easier to work for someone else where you are told what to do and you can close up and go home to your family at the end of the day. Building a full business that you run and operate yourself means you are the boss making critical decisions that affect lives both at home and at work. Some women thrive in this environment and seem to have an endless well of motivation to get it all done.

Willingness to Sacrifice

Multi-Tasking

Multi-Tasking

Sometimes you simply must make sacrifices. After all, there are only twenty-four hours in the day. Are you willing to sleep fewer hours than you already do? Can you give up Saturday outings with your family? Both mothers and entrepreneurs are stretched to the breaking point at times. Doing both means something have to give or something is going to break down.

The Guilt

Going alongside that sacrifice is the guilt. There is always guilt when raising children – did you do enough? Are you feeding him the right things? Should you have rocked her just a bit longer or a bit less? Working with young children produced guilt in and of itself. Being heavily invested in the development of a company may mean spending even less time with your children at some points than you’d like. Can you find the balance in other area and at other times to make that guilt manageable?

Ability to Growing the Business

Finally, there is simply the ability to grow your business to consider. What is manageable as a one-woman shop during naps and after early bedtimes is constricted by your schedule, and that schedule will change as your child grows. Do you have the emotional and financial resources for additional childcare? Do you have the time and effort required to take your business to the next level?

It is folly to say that every mother has the ability to develop and run a million dollar company. It’s important to realize that’s it’s also folly to say the same about every father. Some people have deep reservoirs of support and personal strength that allow them to take on the almost overwhelming challenges of creating and successfully developing a small business. Ultimately your personal success will depend on you.

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8 responses to “Does Entrepreneurship Require Sacrificing Motherhood? 14 Things to Consider”

  1. Harleena Singh
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    Hi Uttoran,

    Wonderful post indeed 🙂

    I saw the title on JustRetweet, and of course, as I fit in both these roles, I had to come over and leave my views about this post!

    It’s certainly not easy to juggle between motherhood and entrepreneurship – ask me!! I think perhaps that’s the reason He gave us the ability to multi-task, which isn’t easy. A working mother’s work is never done…it’s just never ending, leading from one task to another.

    For women bloggers and entrepreneurs, no matter what, their families will always come first, and there lies the tricky part of striking the right balance between their personal and professional lives.

    Great read indeed, and very apt with Mother’s Day just around the corner. Thanks for sharing. Enjoy your weekend 🙂

    BTW – The CommentLuv plugin isn’t working 🙂

    • Uttoran Sen says:

      Hey Harleena,

      Thank you for the comment and tweeting it,

      This is so true! Everything is about the balance and even for men too. In the past when I was single, working for 18 hours wasn’t enough. I always thought there’s more time in the day that gets wasted in sleeping which could be squized out. Now, I hardly get enough time to cover the 9 to 5 office hours of GuestCrew.

      On the other hand, being a women would mean so much more – as no support or domestic help can take care of kids! Especially if you have a kid like mine … but they all are the same! It is almost impossible to find time and yet you do!

      Will check into the comluv, I thought it was working or it could be a temporary issue – will get the tech team to look into it,

      thanks,
      Uttoran Sen,

    • I will never forget my choice to be a stay at home father while my wife worked as an accountant at a big company. As a result of her long days, we concluded we it would be wise for me to stay at home with our brand new son. It was at first a bit difficult to adjust to creating the daily routines. With no foresight, I was drawn into a daily abyss of creativity and joy. The routine became an 8 to 10 pm day. I knew my son needed time with his mother, so as we discussed and agreed, she would be with him on most weekends. The point I am making is from a male perspective which is rare. During these wonderful four years, I completed five Triathlons, 1 marathon, two, 200 mile bike rides, along with multiple other cycling and running races. As I look back, I ask myself how in the world did I accomplish all of this, and raise an intelligent, healthy playful son? As an entrepreneur and someone with a career as a social worker, the answer was simple, I loved what I was doing. I could easily get up at 4:30 each morning and get a swim workout in. I worked smarter by getting efficient house cleaning tools, and a good jogging stoller so I could get my running miles in. It was all clicking wonderfully. However, one year later, I found myself divorced, and sadden because I had to adjust to a whole new lifestyle change. My conclusion, you can do anything you want as an entrepreneur, as long as you can also manage a relationship.

      • Uttoran Sen says:

        Hey Richard,

        Welcome to GuestCrew and thank you for the comment,
        Thanks for sharing your thoughts and insights – your story is truly inspirational and don’t be sad with that life presents you with – just keep going and try to make the best out of it,

        thanks,
        Uttoran Sen,

  2. larissa says:

    Wow, I definitely had no idea that there was so much of a split when it comes to entrepreneurial-ship and motherhood. It is a lot to take on but getting a nice balance is definitely something to be proud of and to work out to. Thanks so much for sharing.

  3. I was an entrepreneur single mom for years. I never had the “guilts” because I was free to make my own hours. Maybe that is the difference between working for someone versus having our own business.
    My daughter grew up understanding the time I had to be away from her but was comfortable with that.

    -Donna
    Donna Merrill recently posted…25 Tips Guaranteed To Easily Increase Your Blog TrafficMy Profile

    • Uttoran Sen says:

      Hey Donna,

      Thank you for the comment,
      Good to see you here 🙂

      Yes, our children do understand that work has to be done – just like their school where they have to go! My wife goes to her Yoga class in the evening, my daughter don’t want her to go, but she knows that it is important … I can understand how difficult it will be if am not with her at that time. But then there are times when both of us aren’t at home, for so many reasons including shopping – and she manages it on her own!

      thanks,
      Uttoran Sen

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